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things they say

Over at Little Hearts Big Love, Louise has started ‘From the mouths of babes’, a linky for posts about the things kids say. I love the way children use language when they’re first learning it, and hearing all the things my boys have come out with over the years has been one of my favourite parts of parenting. These little words and phrases can be forgotten so easily though – no matter how much they melt our hearts at the time – which is why I think this linky is a great idea!

Although I don’t post much about my kids on my blog anymore I’ve decided that this is an aspect of their development I really want to write about. I posted a while back about words and phrases my two older boys have used but my youngest is now nearly two and at a gorgeous language-forming age. I want to capture it all… or as much as I can. So I’ll be joining in Louise’s linky. Probably not every week but when ever I can.

words blocksHere are my top three words that my todder (aged 23 months) is using at the moment:

  • Carryoo – he uses this word (with his arms outstretched) to request that I carry him, ie “Mummy, carryoo?”. He’s taken it from the fact that when I offer to carry him I say “Do you want me to carry you?”. Funnily enough, my oldest used exactly the same word at a similar age. I love it.
  • Gancoo – For ‘thank you’. He says it any time you give or offer him anything, or even when you just understand what he’s trying to say and repeat it back to him. I don’t remember my older two using the word anywhere near as often at that age. As my seven-year-old said the other day “He’s such a polite baby! What a cutie!”
  • Mimished – Fairly obviously means ‘finished’ – he says it at the end of every meal as he passes me his plate. I’ve found myself using the word too as it’s a nice one to say. It seems to fit with eating somehow… something about the repeat of the ‘m’. Or is that just me?

There are plenty more but those are the ones that come to mind right now. Consider this post mimished.

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feedback – #WhatImWriting

Writing Bubble

 
As I set about writing this post for Week Four of ‘What I’m writing’ I can’t help smiling. The last three weeks of the linky have gone so well and we’ve had more people joining in every week! Your posts have been so interesting and inspiring and the comments have been amazing. Our little community is already a lovely place to be. Thank you so much to everyone who’s joined in (and to any new linkers, welcome!) Chrissie is hosting today so if you’re here to link up, please head over to Muddled Manuscript.

So, this week I’ve been mulling over more questions (I’m always pondering something or other). I keep finding myself thinking ‘oh I must ask the #WhatImWriting people about that’ as though I get to sit down for a chat over coffee and cake with you every week. I wish I did! There’s so much I want to ask, but to avoid this post going on till Christmas I’ll just stick to one subject this week: Feedback.

honest criticism

I rarely request or receive any feedback on my work. I’ve never shown the first draft of my novel to anyone (though I will when it’s finished, of course) and only show my husband work if I’m going to submit it… and I’ve made very few submissions. Obviously, I publish work on my blog and get feedback that way but I’ve never requested ‘constructive criticism’ which has meant that the lovely people who comment all say nice things.

When I first started blogging a year ago I was pleased when anyone commented at all, and for ages I was so nervous about publishing my work that there’s no way I would have courted anything but the most kindly of comments. Now though, I’m wondering if it’s time to break out. If I’m ready to risk hearing more. Dare I publish my flash fiction and ask ‘what do you really think?’

As nervous as the idea of hearing what people really think of my writing makes me, I’m aware that feedback is what helps us improve. How can we ever learn from our mistakes if no one tells us what they are? I could be missing out on a huge development opportunity. But is my blog the best place to ask for constructive criticism?

What do you do? Do you get feedback regularly from friends or family? Have you submitted work and got feedback that way (I know some places will offer it)? Do you ask for (and receive) constructive criticism on your blog? What feedback methods are your favourite? Am I weird for even worrying about this?

I’d love to hear what you think.

Oh and just to update you on the challenge I set myself two weeks ago – I managed the limerick I aimed to do and wrote not merely one, but two pieces of flash fiction but this month’s word count for my novel is a teeny three thousand words. I didn’t even manage the five thousand I set myself which was a much smaller number than I’ve done in any other month. Sigh. But you never know, maybe I’ll have a creative burst tonight! I can but hope.