my little jekyll and hyde

Two – it’s a gorgeous age isn’t it? Full of toddler giggles and huge, snuggly cuddles and hours digging happily in mud. Two-year olds love their parents unreservedly and without judgement – we are the best things that ever walked the planet to them. They laugh a lot, the smallest things make them happy and the things they say are hilarious and cute. Who wouldn’t want to live with a two year old? Who wouldn’t want to live with twenty two year olds?!

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Well… except that two year olds, for all their adorableness, can behave like little monsters. Like shouting, screaming, unreasonable tyrants. And while it’s a totally normal part of their development, it can be completely exhausting to deal with. The lack of logic and control they possess can be fairly staggering, I think.

I’ve been through my share of toddler ups and downs with my three boys although, up until last week, I’ve felt very lucky with my youngest. He’s two-and-a-half now and he’s always been a laid-back type who’s happy to just fit in and get on with things. But last week we went on holiday and all that changed – he found his inner toddler and throughly got his ‘two’ on.  I don’t mean he wasn’t lovely some of the time too… but you never knew when he was going to flip. He was basically marmite – you either couldn’t fail to be charmed or you really wanted to run in the opposite direction.

A case in point were these conversations with him that occurred close together:

Scene One – the swimming pool. While his brothers swim splash noisily in the water, the toddler sits on my lap on a step at the shallow end.

Toddler: *snuggling up to me* “Awww my baby” (a phrase he uses to mean ‘give me a cuddle’. I didn’t realise that I often say this when I cuddle him till he started using it as a request!) then, looking deep into my eyes as only a toddler can, “Mummy loves Liddy” (his current name for himself)

Me: “I do, I love you very much.”

Toddler: “And you loves your (his brother’s name).”

Me: ” I do, yes.”

Toddler: “And you loves your (his other brother’s name).”

Me: “I do, I love ALL my boys very much!”

Toddler: * fixes me with the most sincere expression I have ever seen in my life* “And I LOVES my mummy.” *gives me a huge hug*

So obviously my heart was melting a bit after that.

But then there was:

Scene Two – in the car on the way home from the pool. All three boys are in the back.

Me: *cheerfully* “Home we go!”

Toddler: *suddenly inexplicably angry* ” NO! We NOT going home!”

Me: *breezily – trying to head off the tantrum at the pass* “No, I suppose not, since we’re on holiday… we’re going back to our holiday home!”

Toddler: *Fury building* “NO! WE NOT GOING BACK TO OUR HOLIDAY HOME.”

Brothers: *erupt in gales of laughter*

Me: “… well… I…”

Toddler: *Incandescent with rage and pointing wildly at his brothers* “NO! YOU. NOT. LAUGHING! WE NOT GOING HOME!!”

Me: *Thinking quickly… must distract him…* “Oh look! It’s started raining.”

Toddler: *Starring at heavy rain with murder in his eyes* “NO! IT! NOT! RAINING!

Me: *not quite sure what to say* “Well, I think it is, poppet, just a little bit.”

*Brothers manic laughter adds to frenzied feel in the car*

Toddler: “NO! IT NOT RAINING! IT! NOT! RAINING!

*builds up to crescendo of rage* “IT SUNNY!!!!!

Thankfully we arrived home. He calmed down. *Whispers so as not to tempt fate* luckily his tantrums don’t last long.

Ah, my gorgeous Jekyll and Hyde.

You know what? I love Marmite.

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22 thoughts on “my little jekyll and hyde

  1. Mummy Plum

    Toddlers – they cannot be reasoned with! I have a 2 and a half year old and he is very much the same. Also had to smile very much at the piece on wrestling in your last post – the toddler and the six year old have recently started this – all the time – such a relief to know it’s ‘normal’!!

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    1. Maddy Post author

      Oh it’s absolutely normal believe me! Good for them to wrestle with a sibling I think as they learn all about control – which might sound odd when you see them rolling around on the floor together but it’s all about knowing when to stop and how to be ‘tumble’ without out too much ‘rough’ I think. Glad you liked both posts. xx

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  2. Louise

    “Like Marmite” – a very good description for toddlers! Those adorable moments are so gorgeous aren’t they – I love your Toddler saying “awww my baby” as a request for a cuddle and how heart-melting is it when they tell you they love you. And yes, there is then the Mr Hyde moment when they are filled with rage over things they have no control over and demand that white is black (or that it is sunny when it is raining!) Thank you for linking up to #ftmob again :-)

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  3. Sam

    Firstly Maddy – welcome to #thetruthabout!! Lovely to see you over here. Secondly – oh my word how I recognise this scenario! And you know what, I’m finding the tantrums are more draining with my second son (just turned three) because his brother is often misbehaving during them and being very demanding himself and the noise and the stress of it… Seriously it pushes me over the edge sometimes. But I still find him incredibly cute a lot of the time and I cling on to the cuteness more because I know it will be over in a flash. X #thetruthabout

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    1. Maddy Post author

      Yes, dealing with tantrums when you have another kid too is very tiring! My 5yo got very demanding on holiday because the 2yo was taking so much of my attention. Not easy! Thanks for hosting #thetruthabout. x

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  4. Natasha

    I can totally resonate with this post!! You’re not alone, my 3 year old is exactly the same. I can’t say it gets any better over the next year…they get more whiney and definitely more vocal! The cute moments however make up for it, that’s what I try and focus on! #thetruthabout

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    1. Maddy Post author

      We have to try and focus on the good times don’t we? Even on those “More milk please Mummy… NO NOT MILK *throws milk*” moments! x

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    1. Maddy Post author

      I had to try not to giggle as that would have just made things worse but screaming at the rain was never going to work! (wish it did though). x

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  5. Sara | mumturnedmom

    I do love two (and three) year olds, irrational little people… It’s like a light switch sometimes, isn’t it, happy/sad/furious? As hilarious as it is frustrating..! Love the bit about the rain :)

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  6. Jude

    Ha! This is all so relatable. We’ve all been there. That bit about the rain is how we all feel sometimes isn’t it? ‘Maybe if we just try hard enough we can make the rain disappear!’ It would be great if it got easier with time, but soon you’ll have a teenager on your hands…Still, like you say there’s nothing like a 2 year old’s love is there? #thetruthabout xx

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    1. Maddy Post author

      I wish we had the power to shout the rain away and make it a sunny day! I’m hoping for three perfect teenagers… Thanks for commenting Jude.x

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